C and T are both occupying the 2nd highest
positions in an institution; they are good friends and have been working
together for a long time. C is offered a newly opened position which becomes
the 2nd highest position while T is being demoted to a position he
never wants to occupy because it implies inefficiency, worse, his reputation is
greatly affected, and his pride is badly bruised.
C now is in dilemma as to how he will inform T that he has
accepted the position, as he does not want to hurt T’s feelings.
C asks himself, should he tell him, or should he
just let T learn of the developments when the boss announces the changes.
When C asked my opinion, I
told him that he should tell T ahead.
It is better to be frank and
honest. He does not have to explain, clarify, or worse give excuses. Answer only when posted with
questions and be brief. No need to be apologetic.
Less words, less mistakes.
- RAV
Labels: demotion, Friendship, honesty, promotion, work